"Who are those great looking dolls?
It's quick curl Barbie and mod hair Ken
But what do I do with my old Barbie?
Su-Barbie-A
Su-Barbie-A
(Oh Yeah) Su-Barbie-A
If you're going to tell me you don't like this dress
I'm sticking my head right in the oven"
"Part 5: SU-Barbie-A" - Marina And The Diamonds
There isn't any possibility for someone to do something as wrong as cheating on their pair without any reason or excuse, so I've been thinking: do wives and girlfriends do something that repulses husbands and boyfriends? Well, every person is completely different, but I can see some similarities on cheated wives and girlfriends' way to act in pair, so I would say they do.
To understand this, we need to take a look at genre stereotypes (entry about this): we've reached a point in which housewives are just trying to be likable to their man, objectifying themselves and becoming less of a person, getting friendless and staying all day at home.
When a man is looking for a woman, he's obviously looking for a person, someone in the same level to share their lives with. So once he's dealing with an object, then, there are two possibilities: him using that object, which leads to mistreating and gender abuse, or him getting frustrated, trying to make his woman happier to personify her and, if that doesn't work, forsaking her and looking for a true person. Both cases, unless the second one works, lead to cheating.
What I mean with this entry is that, if girls are really looking for a boy to share their lives together, they shouldn't be getting themselves below their boyfriend or husband: they have to be as independent as their man is, having their own lives and enjoying their own moments. It's the only way to make a man happy: if he truly loves you, he will only be happy if you are, and being an object will only get you depressed and suicidal.
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